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lub
Oct 28, 2013 14:52:23 GMT
Post by Mod Kentela on Oct 28, 2013 14:52:23 GMT
Once again, a physical feature, and one that has absolutely nothing to do with their personality at all. Attractiveness to the general public can and will change someone's behavior and personality (more confidence, social skills, etc.) because that's someone people desire to socialize with. appearances actually have a much, much deeper role in defining someone's personality than one would think, and honestly, I find attractive women to be overall more confident and sure of themselves. You ever date someone that second guessed themselves at every turn, and always thought they were wrong? I have, and I wanted to knock their teeth in half the time, and the other half the time, I just felt bad around them. Now I'm not saying everyone's going to be rainbows and sunshine 100% of the time if they're good looking, but it increases the likelihood as far as I'm concerned, and in a city of 1 million people, and a world of 7 billion, I'm willing to narrow down the odds a little. Well of course an attractive woman is going to be more confident because she knows that she is attractive and people will like her she is what society says is good to have, where as an unattractive woman will probably have low self esteem because she is not what society wants and therefore is not good enough.
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lub
Oct 28, 2013 14:54:11 GMT
Post by Rcon on Oct 28, 2013 14:54:11 GMT
Once again, a physical feature, and one that has absolutely nothing to do with their personality at all. Attractiveness to the general public can and will change someone's behavior and personality (more confidence, social skills, etc.) because that's someone people desire to socialize with. appearances actually have a much, much deeper role in defining someone's personality than one would think, and honestly, I find attractive women to be overall more confident and sure of themselves. You ever date someone that second guessed themselves at every turn, and always thought they were wrong? I have, and I wanted to knock their teeth in half the time, and the other half the time, I just felt bad around them. Now I'm not saying everyone's going to be rainbows and sunshine 100% of the time if they're good looking, but it increases the likelihood as far as I'm concerned, and in a city of 1 million people, and a world of 7 billion, I'm willing to narrow down the odds a little. Well of course an attractive woman is going to be more confident because she knows that she is attractive and people will like her she is what society says is good to have, where as an unattractive woman will probably have low self esteem because she is not what society wants and therefore is not good enough. Not what media wants. People do want her, just need to find that someone. There's someone for everyone regardless of attractiveness
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lub
Oct 28, 2013 14:54:37 GMT
Post by lacunascion on Oct 28, 2013 14:54:37 GMT
Once again, a physical feature, and one that has absolutely nothing to do with their personality at all. Attractiveness to the general public can and will change someone's behavior and personality (more confidence, social skills, etc.) because that's someone people desire to socialize with. appearances actually have a much, much deeper role in defining someone's personality than one would think, and honestly, I find attractive women to be overall more confident and sure of themselves. You ever date someone that second guessed themselves at every turn, and always thought they were wrong? I have, and I wanted to knock their teeth in half the time, and the other half the time, I just felt bad around them. Now I'm not saying everyone's going to be rainbows and sunshine 100% of the time if they're good looking, but it increases the likelihood as far as I'm concerned, and in a city of 1 million people, and a world of 7 billion, I'm willing to narrow down the odds a little. Well of course an attractive woman is going to be more confident because she knows that she is attractive and people will like her she is what society says is good to have, where as an unattractive woman will probably have low self esteem because she is not what society wants and therefore is not good enough. Exactly my point, so why fault someone for wanting an attractive partner?
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lub
Oct 28, 2013 15:06:30 GMT
Post by Mod Kentela on Oct 28, 2013 15:06:30 GMT
and I need posts, and its always your fault Scoring..
Always
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lub
Oct 28, 2013 17:41:50 GMT
Post by poppy on Oct 28, 2013 17:41:50 GMT
I don't like RT and I agree with Poppy, this guy just makes it seem like couples need to be handsome/pretty. gey Well but what separates a good female friend from being your girlfriend? Usually it's about being attracted to them. You can get along with someone until the end of time, but if there's no spark, there's no romance, you don't have a relationship. True, but what you need to realise is that you can meet someone and instantly feel a strong attraction, but she might not as good looking as your long time good "girl" friend wish you dont feel an sexual attraction towards. This is true, I have experienced it myself, it all about the personality... And if the looks is appealing to you at the same time.
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lub
Oct 28, 2013 23:12:43 GMT
Post by lacunascion on Oct 28, 2013 23:12:43 GMT
Well but what separates a good female friend from being your girlfriend? Usually it's about being attracted to them. You can get along with someone until the end of time, but if there's no spark, there's no romance, you don't have a relationship. True, but what you need to realise is that you can meet someone and instantly feel a strong attraction, but she might not as good looking as your long time good "girl" friend wish you dont feel an sexual attraction towards. This is true, I have experienced it myself, it all about the personality... And if the looks is appealing to you at the same time. It has also been scientifically proven that women do lean more towards the personality side, whereas males look at appearance more strongly, so I can see where you're coming from. And that's not saying you're wrong, because that does happen, but if you look at my reply to Rcon, I explain a little of how personality is influenced by appearance, so attractive people usually tend to have certain qualities, which are also attractive. Of course due to the laws of standard deviation, these qualities can be found in anyone really, but with the way our society puts certain people places (I like to call it "Pedestals & Pits" personally), it really makes the chances much lower sadly.
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lub
Oct 29, 2013 9:58:03 GMT
Post by poppy on Oct 29, 2013 9:58:03 GMT
I understand your point, but I dont totally agree with it. Sure I would look twice at anyone who is attractive, but I might not feel it when they come up to talk to me. It would be the same for men I am sure. An ordinary looking woman can be very attractive if she has confident and is smart, and knows how to show that of. I just think that attraction based on looks and sexual attraction not always is the same thing, but of course it could be for someone. But trust me, I have been on dates with very attractive men, but often I lost interest during the date, so looks will not help them.
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lub
Oct 29, 2013 10:28:35 GMT
Post by Ardje on Oct 29, 2013 10:28:35 GMT
This video is too psychological and hard and complicated for me to join.
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lub
Oct 29, 2013 10:34:00 GMT
Post by Rcon on Oct 29, 2013 10:34:00 GMT
2deep4me #abortthread
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lub
Oct 29, 2013 12:56:14 GMT
Post by poppy on Oct 29, 2013 12:56:14 GMT
I`m done, lol
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lub
Oct 29, 2013 14:36:37 GMT
Post by Mod Kentela on Oct 29, 2013 14:36:37 GMT
Too much thinking no way to win
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lub
Nov 2, 2013 21:48:44 GMT
Post by lacunascion on Nov 2, 2013 21:48:44 GMT
AT LEAST SOMEONE APPRECIATES A CONVERSATION ABOUT ATTRACTION AND PSYCHOLOGY
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lub
Nov 2, 2013 22:55:31 GMT
Post by Mod Kentela on Nov 2, 2013 22:55:31 GMT
AT LEAST SOMEONE APPRECIATES A CONVERSATION ABOUT ATTRACTION AND PSYCHOLOGY I hate psychology
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lub
Nov 2, 2013 23:01:17 GMT
Post by lacunascion on Nov 2, 2013 23:01:17 GMT
AT LEAST SOMEONE APPRECIATES A CONVERSATION ABOUT ATTRACTION AND PSYCHOLOGY I hate psychology And so, you live in ignorance. It's ok Kentela, I know you'll pull through ;-;
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lub
Nov 3, 2013 10:18:32 GMT
Post by poppy on Nov 3, 2013 10:18:32 GMT
And so, you live in ignorance. It's ok Kentela, I know you'll pull through ;-; I love psychology
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